It’s Been a While…Life update

This last summer, fall, and start of winter was a rough one. My youngest was sliding downhill with her mental health, which resulted in mine going downhill as well. We moved her and my son into their colleges and school started for me. Things were not going well for my youngest at school, and I finally had to just let go and step back. Letting your child fail is extremely difficult, but sometimes necessary unfortunately.

Fall

In late October, my husband fell off a ladder and broke his ankle. He had surgery to put a screw in it and was not allowed to walk on it until December 28th!!! It was a long few months of taking care of everything around the house. I am very spoiled by him. He normally makes my lunch before I leave for work every day, but now I was having to make my lunches along with getting his breakfast and making sure he had everything he needed before I left. Thanksgiving is normally fairly easy for me, because he has always done the majority of cooking, but he couldn’t this year. Christmas decorating, gift buying, gift wrapping, cooking…everything took longer and was mainly on me.

December 29th

My husband was cleared to start walking on his boot on December 28th, and the next day he decided we needed to get his very heavy Christmas gift out of the truck. I attempted to help, but he ended up hurt again. He ended up falling backwards into the garage, breaking his dominant wrist. He had surgery just a few weeks ago to have a plate and screws put in there. I went right back into care mode. He has started over the last few days been able to start doing more on his own without my help, but there are still some things he cannot do on his own.

Things I have learned

1. Sometimes you have to let go.

This one was extremely difficult. I was trying to call my youngest every day to make sure she was getting to class, but I had to stop. While talking to my counselor and she pointed out how much I was allowing my daughter to run my life. I could not handle all of the things I needed to on the path I was taking, so I let it go and allowed her to figure it out on her own.

2. Sometimes you need help.

If I had attempted to deal with everything I was going through on my own, there’s no way I would have made it through all of that without a mental breakdown. I’m not only talking about seeing a professional, but using your friends and the people around you. Co-workers, friends, spouses, etc. all count as someone you can lean on. Sometimes you have to lean on all of them at the same time to make it through. You figure out what works for you.

3. Figure out what your coping skills are.

I did a lot of praying, talking to family and friends, and using my essential oils/supplements. You have to figure out what exactly works for you. Normally I would have also gone to the gym to work out, but with my husband needing help, I couldn’t be gone longer than I already was for work. That is getting added back on this week though!!

4. Take care of yourself!

This is a big one!! With all of the added responsibilities I had, I needed to make sure that I was getting enough sleep, water, and food. Yes, I know that all sounds silly because we should all know that already, but knowing and doing are two completely different things.

5. Focus on the most important things.

Obviously, I was not on here sharing what was going on, because I was taking care of the most important things. This blog started out as a way to deal with things while helping others. I don’t have a ton of wisdom to share though. I do however have a full time job and a side business that I need to focus on so I am going to start adding in some things dealing with my side business at times. This blog I feel like will be able to help even more people that way.